Month: September 2014

8 Reasons Men Fall In Love With Good Girls

8 Reasons Men Fall In Love With Good Girls

While men always and will always like bad girls, the good girl is the one they fall in love with and commit to possibly for the rest of their life. Aside from the fact that good girls are a rarity, what makes them so irresistible and lovely that men feel compelled to surrender their freedom to?

1. She’s loyal

Being faithful is very important to men and it goes beyond the sexual part: a good girl will stay by her man’s side no matter what. Life is a very dangerous adventure with ups and downs and a man can’t always be at his 100%. He can get sick or get involved in big troubles; during those times he won’t be as bold, dominant, sexy, reliable and powerful as usual.

Smelling the frailty and the open wounds, the vultures he usually protects her from will try to steer her away from him, be it with seduction, money or alluring promises of a better life. In this age of short term everything, temptations are strong, but the good girl always valiantly resists them.

2. She’s honest

She’s an open book: she cries and instantly shows her emotions when she’s hurt, letting you know what you did wrong so you can apologize and fix it right away instead of letting it drag for months. Also, she does not manipulate to get what she wants. Instead, the good girl rarely asks for anything, because you often feel naturally inclined to help her anyways.

3. She’s sweet

Sensitive, her eyes will light up, her face will soften and her mouth will slightly open when you hold your piercing gaze on her a little too long. Telling her she’s pretty will make her smile and make her genuinely happy instead of flattering her ego.

Innocent, she is unaware of the ugliest and darkest aspects of life because she did not partake in any of it. Her lightness makes you forget about the harsh cruelty of the world and brings out the joy and playfulness that still reside somewhere inside you.

Vulnerable, she unknowingly brings out your protective instinct, something that never happens when you’re around other girls. When someone hurts her, it’s like watching an ivory tower on a flower field filled with unicorns being obliterated by a horde of garbage trucks pouring rotting trash and plastic goo all over the place. That makes a man truly enraged and fills him with unique emotions of violence and righteousness.

4. She’s forgiving to the point it haunts you

Men can sometimes be cruel in moments of anger, saying extremely hurtful words or doing unforgettable actions. But the good girl is able to forgive you the worst things you can possibly have done to her. She doesn’t hold grudges: when you did her wrong, she actually prays for you to have a better life and hopefully come to your senses.

Her greatest weapon is her ability to be so kind and compassionate to the point it makes you angry at yourself for falling short. This makes a man puzzled and forces him to face what he did and solve the problem instead of having endless arguments that lead to nowhere.

5. She’s supportive

She is the kind of girl who puts other’s people needs before hers. She will support you in your endeavors by encouraging you to work harder and constantly telling you that you’re strong and that you’re the best. If you’re sick, her nurturing instinct will instantly kick in and she will concoct special potions for you to make sure you have everything you need to get back on your feet.

6. She listens

Compassionate and empathic, she listens to others, gives good advice and is wise beyond her years. She brings you a perspective that you would not have, one that comes from a different world than yours. She doesn’t criticize, back talk or interrupt you when you speak; conversation with her is easy and it makes you feel cozy and relaxed after your long, confrontational day of hard work.

7. She pushes you to be a better man

When she knows you have a very important goal, she helps you attain it and she wants you to improve yourself instead of holding you down for fear of losing you. When you fail terribly, instead of letting you marinate in your misery, she appeals to your pride by telling you gently and calmly that you have to man up and face your situation. But most importantly, she greatly motivates you to be a good man by being a good woman herself.

8. She’s hard to find

Finally, the good girl has been mistreated and misunderstood in the past five decades. Constantly under pressure to conform to other girls, taken advantage of by seductive men, bored to tears by slimy “nice” guys, her existence and future are in question. So to those good girls who are being ignored and forgotten in this world of meaningless flings, confrontational social interactions and interchangeable relationships, we know you exist, we value you and we love you.

Importat decisions

Love is God’s greatest gift, his biggest test and his harshest sentence. The choice of who to marry is the one and only choice we are allowed when choosing our family. Parents, grandparents, siblings, and kids are all decreed by our creator. The choice of a spouse (although it is already written) is our sole choice in who we bring into the intimate fold of our family. The choice which is easy for some (although many get it wrong) and grueling for others. The decision challenges our knowledge of who we are at our very core. The person we marry is a reflection of ourselves. The choice of spouse reflects our values, aspirations, priorities and beliefs. The decision cannot be taken lightly. It cannot be taken to complete a hole in own lives, our limitations or to cross off an item on our checklist. Once it happens, you are joined in a union for the rest of your days. A blessing, a trial and a curse.

Love has a way of making everything else disappear. In many ways it’s akin to a powerful drug. It clouds our choices. Once caught in its grips we fail to consider the importance of everything else. Careers, friends, food, our own personal identity that we have spent a lifetime crafting all pale in comparison to the grasp that love has over us. Often we do what an outside observer would consider ridiculous things to deepen our sense of love, to add to its mystical power, its enchanting hold over our lives…to entrench ourselves deeper and deeper so the outside world becomes a vague fuzzy memory. But what it provides is a sense that nothing else in this world can match. A sense of euphoria unmatched in all other ways. Better than any runners high, or sugar rush, the feeling of love creates a feeling so intense that it molds us from inside out. We do whatever is needed to achieve it and go through ridiculous lengths to maintain it. When in love it provides a feeling of permanence not intended for this short trial of a life. It calms our anxiety, it settles a restless sole, it provides a companion for life’s greatest tests. In it you will find your best friend, your biggest fan and your harshest critic. It will take you to your highest highs and be the very cause of your lowest lows. It will challenge you each and every day, but reward you in ways that are difficult to perceive.

A better me

Trying to make yourself a better person is no small task, especially when there are so many aspects that require remediation. Before being able to complete a major portion of our deen (marriage), I had to work on myself. To make myself the kind of person that is capable of leading a household and taking the responsibility for others. I want to be the man that I would trust to give my daughter to (if I am fortunate enough to have one).

To be physically fit, with a healthy regimen so I can be there to take care of her and my family in the long haul.

Emotionally strong and steadfast in my decisions and my character. With the ability to be an independent person and mend my life with hers out of choice, not out of necessity

Financially secure in my work and my outlook

Religiously, ethically and morally strong. To make the correct decisions based on knowledge, the ability source knowledge when needed, and the thirst to continue to pursue it.

It has been a long road. Over the last few years I have made more mistake than I care to admit. But being able to be the type of person that is capable of providing a loving, caring, and thriving home is important to me. It’s going to be a life long journey to be the man I can be proud of…I want to make sure that at least I am started on the right path.